Tuesday, February 1, 2011

10...9...8...7...come on referral

Hello again...we are excited to say we made it to 10! Yay! We are now number '10' on the unofficial list. We will have been DTE for 5 months on the third...and to those who say "WHAT?" that means we will have been waiting officially for 5 months. When we finished all of our paper work, which took us about six months, we were put on a list. We don't know the exact place we are on the official list...only our agency knows this, however because in the adoption world you learn quickly how to communicate with each other, there is an unofficial list. We have been following that. SO when we stared this whole process we were told you wait about 4 to 6 months for a referral when placed on the list. We have been waiting almost five. Recently we found out that our agency has extended the wait times a bit since things are taking a little longer. So the wait time now for a boy is 5 to 8 months for a referral.

There are many reasons why the wait time can get longer, or can shorten. From what I have learned, it can be because paperwork is missing, the babies are sick and in order for them to be referred to a family they need to be in good health, the list goes on. We are really at peace with the process. I remember waiting to have Mae, and when I was 41 weeks on the couch, huge, bloated with an overdue baby, I didn't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am thankful for that small trial, because it has prepared me to wait through this one. We know at the end there is a beautiful baby who will be our son. Just like we waited for Mae. The reward is so great!

The next step for us is to be put "On Deck" this means that your family is next in line...kinda. It means our family would be close to the top of the list and could receive a referral soon. Our agency is very serious about praying over those babies and families. They truly want to seek God in each placement, and we are so thankful for that. We could be "On Deck" for a few weeks or a few months. It all depends on so many factors. However, I think with the email letting us know that we are "On Deck" there will be lots of celebration, just like hearing a baby heart beat for the first time, or seeing an ultra sound picture. We are focusing on the small steps that will get us to our baby!